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Shy Dominant
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Lately my partner and I have been experimenting with bits of BDSM. BDSM has been something that I have been intrigued by longer than I have realized. We’ve been experimenting – usually I fall into the role of being submissive. He wants me to try being dominant as well, at times I may threaten to punish him for something – and he seems like he really wants me to go through with it. I’ve just been all talk when it comes down to it, and I don’t know why – I’m just shy about it. At times I’m a little afraid that I might hurt him too much, but he just tells me that’s what safe words are for.
It’s a little odd for me coming from an Italian heritage because the women normally have dominant personalities – so naturally I have one too. I’ve put him in bondage before and it’s quite a turn on for me. I love the image of being able to dress up in a pretty dress or a corset and have a riding crop in my hands – but I just can’t seem to really go through with it. I guess that it may be because I put others before myself so often, that maybe it just feels odd having someone put me before themselves in a way that will let me dominate them.
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about 12 months ago
If you’re worried about it, I suggest you start off really easy. Just have fun taking charge in bed before you try the rest. Just push him down and pleasure him a bit, or “command” him to pleasure you and then choose an on-top position. Starting easy helps you find your dominant side.
about 11 months ago
Thanks for the tips!