Repetition, my new pet peeve
I realized lately that I have been getting frustrated with my partner for the same thing over and over again. I feel like I have to repeat myself to him a little too often. Though this never bothered me before, ever since he and I have moved in together it has been a huge pet peeve of mine and I don’t know why. This morning it happened again, and I felt horrible because I snapped at him. I really hate getting frustrated with him because I know it makes him feel bad and it makes me feel bad. Sometimes I feel like I am just being a harpy because I am upset with him. I don’t know if it’s because I now have to repeat myself like that during my work time that it’s getting to be too much at home too. I just hate having to re-tell him things sometimes and it’s the main thing he does that really bothers me sometimes.
I really don’t think there is a cure for it, so I need to figure out how to make myself get over it. I mean whenever I have to repeat myself with him I get a little tinge of annoyance and really want to say “I’ve told you this before, Why are you making me repeat myself?” Plus, I understand that he is busy with college as well so I am sure he has his mind elsewhere just as much as I do sometimes. I don’t know, I just need to figure out how to get over it. I just feel like such a harpy because I have been getting annoyed with him over something as small as this.
Guys (and some girls) forget. Jor does it too. I’ve found that making lists and leaving them around does a lot better job.Or if it’s date/times, a calendar works.
Also, if your partner is starting to bug you, get out of the house. Seriously. I love the boyfriend, but if I had no time apart, I’d go nuts. Moving in with your guy can definitely be a new step – and you’ll rub on each others nerves if you don’t claim your own space and your own time.
Biggest suggestion? A dry-erase board near the bedroom doorway. Write important things on it. Only important. And he has to see it when he leaves the room in the morning. Or near wherever the boyfriend lives. If I was doing it for Jor, I’d leave it near the TV.