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Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.
I actually answered this same question last year for Insatiable Desire. Well, for my F (short for fiance) and I we kind of have a slight switch from time to time – but we mostly stay in certain roles. Sadly, I have learned that “switch” relationships are looked down upon in the BDSM community. So at times I don’t like to admit that we have a “switch” type relationship. Though, the “switch” aspect happens rarely, because I am normally the submissive and my F is the dominant. I don’t feel comfortable taking on the dominant role at all, so it rarely happens. I do however enjoy being a submissive greatly, I love being able to let go of my control and put my trust in my F to take care of me the way he sees fit. I have a high pain tolerance, so I am fine with being punished by spankings or even having my breasts flogged – so punishment or discipline is also a part of our BDSM relationship.
We are not in a 24/7 relationship, I do have a “public” collar type necklace that I will wear from time to time out in public though. We aren’t exactly open about it, we keep much of our sexual and personal lives to ourselves. Which is part of the reason I have this blog, I love to talk about it – but I would rather talk about it in an open environment where I don’t have to worry about being judged for doing certain things I enjoy. In day to day life, I am naturally headstrong, opinionated, independent, and very dominant. So it’s great to be able to feel the release of control when I hand myself over to my F to take care of me. Recently we have been incorporating more discipline into our relationship as well which helps to keep me motivated. I’ve had to go on a special diet so if I don’t properly keep track like I should, I have to answer to my F for it. It’s the same with a couple of my other bad habits, though I admit it’s a little fun to let it slip from memory from time to time so I do get a swat on the tush.
I was chosen by Swan to try their recent line of sex toys called “Leaf”. I wasn’t able to receive my top choice but in a way, I am glad that I didn’t. I’m extremely thrilled with the product that I did receive. The name of the model I received is titled “Touch”. The “Touch” is made up of a velvety feeling silicone. The silicone is said to be completely “seamless”, but I feel that a seam is visible upon inspection. Even though the seam can be seen, it can not be felt – so don’t worry about it changing the feel up or anything. The shape of the “Touch” reminds me a bit of a long pointed fruit wedge. “Touch” is waterproof, I tested out the waterproof capabilities by taking the vibrator in the shower with me. The vibrator worked well in the shower and continued to function well afterwards. The “Touch” is rechargeable, making it a nice, fun, and eco-friendly toy because you are not having to throw out tons of batteries if you use it a lot. The place that you plug the charger into is on the flat side of the toy. The hole is visible, so you may want to be careful when it comes to submerging the toy underwater so that you don’t mess up the charging port. I have read other reviews though, and they stated that they had no problem when it came to submerging the toy. I myself, would rather be safe than sorry so I am not planning on submerging mine.
The touch is about 5 inches long, at the widest point, it is about 1 inch wide. The smallest point at the end of the wedge is about a quarter of an inch. The smallest point allows for great pinpoint stimulation. The “Touch” is turned on by a simple raised button on one side of the toy, you push it once for to turn it on and twice to shut it off. If you want to raise the strength of the vibrations you continue to hold the button until you get it to the strength you want. For me, I felt like I was revving up a motorcycle while I raised the strength. It started off as a slow steady rumble and then took off as I raised the strength. If you are planning to travel with the toy, you can lock it by pushing the button three times, and to unlock it you will do the same.
The “Touch” is made for external stimulation only, so you do not want to insert it into any part of your body. Though it can be used to stimulate your breasts, vulva, and around the anal region. I used mine mostly on my breasts, the smallest point feels great around and on the nipples. I also used it on and around my vulva, the pinpoint is great for focusing on the clitoris. You can also gently move it up and down to simulate oral sex. It also feels great to use the triangular side of the wedge to stimulate the vulva. I also used it to stimulate my partner by running the tip around his testicles. He seemed to love it when I stuck it down his underwear and wedged i next to his penis. He was interested in using the vibrator himself because he enjoyed how great it felt. It can be used during sex, I have used it to help stimulate myself depending on what position my partner and I are in.
The vibrations are a bit buzzy, similar to those of a cellular phone. On the highest setting, I feel like it tickles my hands and kind of numbs them. The vibrations seem to begin on the wider end of the touch and travel down to the smaller pinpoint tip. Due to this, the vibrations in the pinpoint tip may feel a bit weaker, though for me it is not weak enough to notice a huge difference. The vibrations aren’t loud, but I feel that they can be heard through sheets on the highest setting. It is not loud enough to be heard through walls or closed doors. So no worries about your family or room mates hearing.
The touch does seem to weaken a bit when the battery is running out of charge, but to charge it didn’t seem to take a long time. I had mine on the charger for an hour and it still was up to maximum strength. One thing I like a lot about the “Touch” is that if you don’t use it for a week there still seems to be a lot of charge left in the battery. It drives me crazy that with certain toys, if they aren’t used often the charge is drained and I will have to charge it before I can use it.
I clean my “Touch” with mild soap and warm water, the silicone material is non-porous so you will not have to worry about it soaking up bacteria. As far as lubes go, stay away from silicone based lubricants or else you could completely ruin the vibrator. One issue I have with silicone toys is that they tend to collect lint or pet hair. So you may want to rinse it off before use. The “Touch” does come with it’s own storage pouch, so that seems to help keep all of the lint and hair off of it for me.
All in all, I am thrilled with the “Touch” – it is definitely one of my go to vibrators. I keep it in my small toy box under my bed so it is there when I need a quick solo play or if my partner and I are in the mood to incorporate toys into our play. I haven’t had any issues with it, it’s easy to use and gives me the stimulation I need.
If you would like to learn more about the Leaf vibrators or purchase one of your own, here is the manufacturer’s webpage: Leaf by Swan
…about Lelo‘s newest product that will be released on September 15th. What I can tell you is that it is the newest part of Lelo’s Insignia line. There are 3 new additions, one has the same name as a Norse god, one has the same name as a lawyer from Wolfram & Hart, and the last has a name fit for a princess. What is so new and innovative about these products? They use the similar SenseMotion technology to smartphones and video games. Each vibrator is remote controlled – to control it you can flick and tilt your wrist to control the vibrations. I love the idea of being so much more in control of my own pleasure.
Want more information and see pictures? check out the link to Lelo’s press release on their news page.
Guess who is getting this new product to review? Yours truly, so be such to stay tuned for my review!
It’s weird that for someone who does sex toy reviews and talks about their sex life on a blog, how private a person I am both online and in my daily life. The thing is, being anonymous online is extremely important to me. I don’t want anything I do online to impact my daily life. I am choosing to go into a public job after I get out of college and I don’t want anything to get in the way of doing what I dream of doing for a living. So you will never see my face online anywhere or any of my personal information. I try to keep things as general as possible about myself. The reason I started this blog is because I began to review sex toys and I really enjoyed it and because I wanted a place that I could openly talk about sex, sexuality, and my own sex life because I had no one to talk to in my outside life. It’s a subject that I am greatly interested in and I feel that it is important to educate myself and others about it – but it’s too sensitive a subject for me to be able to talk about it with my friends. I enjoy sex and kink with my partner, but we only talk about that with each other and no one else. So I enjoy being able to pop up online and share these things about myself.
I definitely don’t go blabbing about my personal life to others (in my outside life) to the point that I got extremely upset with my room mate because she made a snarky comment about how she doesn’t want to hear my partner and I having sex in the shower – right in front of guests we had at the house. I was so extremely embarrassed, especially because I wouldn’t share anything like that about myself with these people. The thing is, we weren’t even having sex in the shower at all. She just overheard us in there laughing and assumed we were having sex. The thing is, I did sneak him in the shower with me one night – but it wasn’t for sex. He and I just plain enjoy taking showers together and that’s it. It’s relaxing, it gives us intimate time with each other, and it gives us time to talk with one another. We used to do it a lot together, but after we have had to move in with other people – we rarely get to so it anymore and we had been craving it with each other. I try my best to be considerate of our room mate, so I would never go have sex in the shower when she was home. So instead, when she is home we stay quiet in the bedroom with each other when we need each other. I never want to be “the naked roommate” and cause any awkward moments for us. I may not get that same consideration from her, but I want to make sure I at least do it. So, I feel like our sex life has to suffer for it sometimes and it stays pretty vanilla at times now because of it. Especially when it comes to BDSM, I have to make sure my partner goes easy on me, because I worry that she may hear something and think he beats me or something – which would just create another awkward moment right there.
Privacy is very important to me and living with others makes it hard sometimes. As well as trying to keep my personal life away from my online persona.